The Paramita of Generosity
By Khentin Tai Situ Rinpoche
The practice of generosity
is to give what is worthwhile and to give it with non-attachment. This
can be studied through three main aspects: giving things, giving loving
protection and giving loving understanding. The teaching on the first
of these, material generosity, explains what is proper generosity and
what is improper. We should abandon improper generosity and practice
the proper one.
Motivation
is very important when we give. If we give with a wrong motivation,
such as making gifts which we hope will harm others or which we intend
to bring us fame, or if we give with an inferior motivation such as
through fear of future poverty, then that is improper. What we actually
give is also important. A Bodhisattva should never give what is
harmful, for instance, when he gives something suitable it should be
generously, not meanly. To whom we give to is important - always
pandering to the wishes of the crazy and the gluttonous would not be
proper generosity. Finally, how we make our gift is important. The
Bodhisattva avoids reluctant giving, angry giving, disrespectful giving
and scornful, derisory giving, all of which are improper.
Proper
generosity is to give whatever we have and there are many wonderful,
inspiring stories of great Bodhisattvas who have given their own flesh
to nourish starving animals. Whatever we can manage to give,
we give
to those who need it, paying particular attention to help those who
represent the Three Jewels, those who have helped us - our parents
especially - whose who are sick and unprotected, and also those who are
our particular enemies or rivals. The way in which we make our gift to
them should be joyfully, respectfully, with a compassionate heart and
without regret. It is better to give with one's own hand rather than
through others, to give at just the right time, and, of course, to give
without harming others. Impartial giving is best and a wise person
gives just what is needed.
The second form of generosity is to
give our loving protection to those in fear: in fear of others, in fear
of sickness and death and in fear of catastrophe.
The third form
of generosity is to make the priceless gift of Dharma. This does not
mean indiscriminately preaching to anyone and everyone. It means
helping those who have respect for the Dharma, for the truth, to
understand it. With a very pure motivation, we should humbly and
compassionately pass on the authentic teachings that we ourselves have
understood well from a proper teacher. The thing to avoid is a mixture
of personal opinion and the classical teachings and, of course, any
sort of self-centred motivation. The truth is something both rare and
precious and deserves to be talked about in a pleasant way and in a
proper place. The classical way to give teachings is well discussed in
the Sutras and, in a general way, we should know better than to jumble
Dharma with worldly conversation.
These are the three basic
forms of generosity. It was the first of the paramitas to be taught by
the Buddha because it is one of the easiest to understand and everyone
can practice it. It is also the foundation for the
other five paramitas.